The pandemic and lockdown has left many with low self-confidence and struggling to find the self-motivation for work and other areas of their life? It has become a wellbeing issue for people during Covid-19 and is something to consider for organisations as they look to build resilience during the crisis, says one mindset and lifestyle coach.
Whether they’ve been living alone or have lost touch with friends and family, or have been furloughed or lost your job, this pandemic has left people with a battered ego and low self-esteem. Human needs in COVID-19 isolation put it, Covid-19 has created a “perfect storm of vulnerabilities huge numbers of people have been ill-prepared to manage”.
Dhara Shah, owner of Ripple Touch, has seen for herself the impact the crisis is having on the people she has met across Leicestershire over the last few months. “Covid-19 has had an effect on their self-confidence in so many ways,” she said.
“I’ve seen people turning to drinking more. You get some people who are feeling withdrawn and nervous with the concept of going out, or just generally feeling more anxious or stressed. It’s increasing the strain on relationships. You get parents blocking out their own feelings to be strong for their kids.
“It’s the struggle with the change in lifestyle as well. Loneliness has increased. Some are looking to social media for validation or reassurance and this can have the opposite effect, it can impact you negatively.”
And the 35-year-old mum-of-two, who recovered from her own crisis of confidence to set up her own business, has five tips to for people to challenge their negative thoughts, boost self-esteem and get themselves back on track.
- Identify negative self-talk – spot situations when you question yourself the most – it can help you to anticipate and prepare.
- Check in with yourself – Stopping and pausing, being mindful of what’s on your mind and how you’re feeling, can help you to turn it around
- Listen to what you’re saying to yourself – Don’t ignore it, hear it and make a note, as if you were keeping a journal.
- Challenge what you’re telling yourself – is there any fact to this? What would I be telling a friend in a similar situation? Can I do anything to change what I’m feeling bad about?
- Talk yourself up! Choose to acknowledge yourself, celebrate, compliment, forgive and encourage yourself. It will feel uncomfortable at first, frustrating maybe, but it’s no different to learning to drive a car for the first time. Use expressions such as “I can and will …”, “I have the power to…, “I am capable of…” and “I’m proud of myself for…”
Dhara will be hosting a virtual coaching session on self-acceptance and positive mindsets on November 26. For more information, visit events.rippletouch.co.uk .
“While in banking, my roles involved mentoring and coaching people in their personal development. What I often found was that limiting beliefs and a negative mindset were at the heart of what was holding people back.
“Mindset coaching was something I was drawn to and did naturally. Through working with people, I also learned a lot about myself and my own trust issues. I realised that I hid behind my own armour to avoid the risk of getting hurt.
“Things came to a head in 2019. I was faced with redundancy when I was expecting my second child. As stressful as this was, I saw this an opportunity to shift my mindset and change things for myself. I took redundancy and had my baby the following month!
The real turning point was the few months after having my child. I wasn’t myself. I felt dull and withdrawn from life. I was on auto-pilot, going through the motions with the daily routine of being at home and carrying out the roles of 'mum', 'wife' and 'housekeeper'. I love my family, yet something was missing. I felt lost, without purpose and was suffering inside.
“It was here I made a choice. For me to be fulfilled and happy in all the roles in my life, it was important for me to have purpose and fulfilment as an individual. I needed to work with people again! It was time to practise what I preached, to apply those skills I used to help others and make that shift in my own mindset for transformational change.
“This is when I founded Ripple Touch... because I know what it is like to feel low, to feel stuck, to feel lost. I know what it's like to hide behind a mask. I know what it's like to not be and show your true self and suffer silently. I also know what it's like to shift your mindset, to take positive action, to see the change in yourself and the ripple effect it has on your life.
Now I cherish and enjoy being with my children, I love family life, but I also love my work.
“I'm passionate about the transformational impact of changing your mindset and I love helping people discover their inner power and strength and make choices that create positive ripples not only in their own lives but naturally have impact on those around them.”